Internet dating is bad
We were in couple’s therapy for several years leading up to the split and for the last part of the relationship we were living as roommates.
Then I friend him on Facebook, and there happens to be a pic of him and the ex-wife of my (current) boyfriend's brother, who is a generally gross and fairly unattractive person who barely showers. He starts crying and tells me she's the one he's been talking about. He was clearly desperate for a warm body, and anyone would do.
We got along ok, conversation went well, and in the course of the date he asked me about bad dates I've been on. If you feel you have to hide yo kids to get a date, then that's not the person you want to be dating. Reminds me of when I met a guy from OKC who neglected to mention he was in a wheelchair.
I brought up the larger guy from before and mentioned the wheezing and the pushing to top me, and he asked if the guy was named XXX. I'm also a plus size gal, and for the life of me I can't understand not being upfront about that. That alone wasn't a dealbreaker, but I let him know that I didn't like his intentional deception and agreed to give him another chance.
All my family and friends say I have been adjusting surprisingly well, but for me the relationship died a long time ago.
I have discussed this with my individual therapist (“should I be more upset?!